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Are You Just Letting Life Happen to You?

For many years the “personal development” gurus have been talking about the power of personal growth and creating your best life possible.

We have watched the movie “The Secret” and have learned about the power of the subconscious mind and creating the life you want versus a life that is creating for you by just sitting back and letting life happen.

I felt the nudge to share and write about this topic because for years I have been doing my best to practice these techniques and really try to make things happen instead of letting life happen to me.

I was looking through one of my journals from years ago back in 2006 when I started to write down what I am grateful for even if they hadn’t occurred yet. I try and go back to that journal periodically and see what items on the list have actually come to fruition. It’s so satisfying to cross them off the list!!

I was surprised this last time I went through it I was able to cross off quite a few items and one I considered a “big” item.

I always wanted to write a book. I love to write and as an introvert it is easy for me to hide behind my written words than to have a face-to-face conversation with a stranger! Now as a nurse you might find that strange because we get quite intimate with strangers all the time. I learned how to be open and talk to my patients because that was my job and became my true comfort zone.

With my network marketing business that was more of a challenge. This is a “people” business and so this is where all the personal development came in handy in getting over my fears in a new type of business and getting out of my comfort zone. It was hard. It is still hard sometimes.

In looking at the journal, I found item #256 out of 283 items I wrote down that I was grateful for back on 4/19/2007. It said that I was grateful for writing an e-book to help consumers understand home health care. Here we are 15 years later and my friend and business partner and I ready to release our first book for our new business. It isn’t about home care or just an e-book, it is a paperback book about hospice and how passionate we are about using that service. We are going to address the 10 most common misconceptions people have regarding hospice. See you don’t always need to have all the answers, just put it out there what you want and be grateful for it before you actually have it.

Another example is using a dream board. I have also had one for years and the biggest joy I get out of having one is to take down the pictures of the things that we have achieved and then putting up bigger dreams.

Our whole life is determined by our choices. Think about it. You may not agree with me but take some time to look at the good things in your life and the not so good things that happened to you as a result of your choices. Of course, some things are out of your control and you can’t help how your life get’s affected by other people’s choices but you can control your own and you can control how you react to other’s choices.

I have struggled with my weight but no one is forcing me to choose the brownie vs. the piece of fruit. If I want to lose weight, I need to make better choices. I know that is easy to say and making good choices can be hard sometimes but you can make the right decision if you choose to make the right choice. I started by increasing my exercise. 10,000 steps per day 5 days per week. That is my goal. Did I go all out and spend 45 minutes on the treadmill every day? No, I started with just 15 minutes a few times a day and it all added up to my 10,000. I have reached this goal every week since New Year’s Day. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. I love the line in the movie “Soul Surfer” when she says “I am not asking for easy, I am just asking for possible.” That’s a great movie if you haven’t seen it about a surfer injured by a shark and her battle to surf again.

We all have areas in our life that need work, me included. That is o.k. it’s alright to be vulnerable and share your struggles as long as you recognize what needs work and you put a plan in place to address those struggles and overcome them. That is what will earn you respect and have your peers cheering you on.

The bottom line is, don’t let your life happen while you sit back and watch. Make your life happen and design it along the way. If there is an area of your life that needs work seek out training or education in that area. Read, listen to podcasts, watch a you tube video, or whatever it takes to get you the knowledge you need to get you past your struggle.

Everyone is busy but you make time for the things you set as a priority. Even if it is 10 minutes a day or 10 pages in a book that will get you started.

I participated in a master mind training with one of my business mentors Susan Sly this past Friday. What she talked about pushed me to want to reach out and share the message. There has been a lot of turmoil around politics and Covid. Here’s the rub. No matter who our President is, we have the ability to create our own economy. Take a piece of paper and write down all the things that are bugging you and then burn it or throw it away. Get it all off your chest. Next write down 10 things you are grateful for. Last write down three items to say to yourself before you go to bed tonight and then again in the morning and then as often as you can. Some examples might be, “I am a beautiful person inside and out and I can make a positive impact on the lives of others.” “I am happy and grateful I weigh 115 lbs. and I can bend over and tie my shoes!” “I am happy and grateful to deliver a talk in front of 50 people with confidence.” “I am a great mom that treats my children with patience every day.” What-ever your area of improvement might be right out an affirmation to breath life into who you want to become, then be it.

What are your success habits? What are your gaps? Are you doing the things you should be doing? What does your day look like and what are you putting into place to get better? Success habits may include journaling, reading, listening to podcasts, exercise, drinking enough water, yoga or meditation, Bible study, writing daily gratitude list, a prayer list, writing down your top 3 priorities of the day, planning your day the night before, eating healthier, and setting goals and reviewing them regularly.

Lastly, are you breathing life into others or being jealous because they have the things that you want? If you have an abundance mindset, you will realize there is plenty of everything we want to go around. A scarcity mindset is the “Negative Nelly” telling you I need to get this before so and so gets it because there might not be enough to go around! People wonder why wealthy and successful people are willing to share tips and strategies they used to create their success. The reason they do is they have made their life a success and they truly want to help others do the same. They have an abundance mindset. Give freely of yourself and your resources and they will come back to you 10-fold.

I will close with this. We are all human beings that need to look after each other and breathe life instead of grief into one another. We need to reach down and offer a hand up to those that want to get better and achieve more. We need to reach up and grab a hand if you are struggling and want to change and are open to getting help. We all can design the life we choose and it starts with making a decision to make better choices and be grateful for what we already have!

Thanks for stopping by today and sharing some of your precious time with us. Go out and please make it an awesome day!

p.s. Our book launches our new business as Nurse Advocates. Your Nurse Advocate Consulting, LLC is our name. This book shares stories about the journey on hospice and addresses the Top 10 Misconceptions people have regarding this service. If you would like to learn more about when our book will be released this month please fill out the form and share your email with us and we will make sure are on the list!

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